We be brethren— The Hebrews call near relations, as kinsmen, &c. brethren. Indeed all men are brethren, as having One Father; and consequently can hardly urge a more prevailing argument for unanimity and concord, than this common relationship. See Acts 17:26. Abram's behaviour here is extremely amiable; it shews the good and the wise man; who, ever anxious to prevent animosities, is always most ready to yield, most forward to condescend, as being a constant friend to peace, and a foe to all strife and contention. Observe particularly;
1. Abram's desire to accommodate the matter peaceably. Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee: it ill becomes us as near relations, and worse, as servants of God. Learn, (1.) It is our wisdom in all contests to leave off betimes. (2.) It needs both address and gentleness, to bring those who are in the wrong, to consent to an accommodation. (3.) Christians, especially, should consider their relation to each other. They are brethren; let them love as brethren, and then all disputes will be at an end. (4.) They who have God's glory at heart, will have a greater concern lest that suffer, than for their own interests.
2. His proposal. Separate thyself peaceably, and choose the right or left, I am content with the refusal. (1.) Observe Abram's kindness: since we must part, let us part friends separate thyself, I pray thee. Oh! if Christians would be content to unite in love, and think and let think in unessential matters, how much perverse disputing would be prevented! (2.) His self-denial. He had certainly most authority to command, and most right to claim the land, especially after the promise, to which Lot could be no stranger: but he is ready to forego both. Learn hence, that, even though we might command, it is more Christan-like to intreat: and again, that it behoves us often rather to suffer loss, than to seek a litigious redress.